Arranged Marriage

The paradox of arranged marriage

Here are a few quotes that reveal the paradox of arranged marriages-

“It was against all scientific reason for two people who hardly knew each other, with no ties at all between them, with different characters, different upbringings, and even different genders, to suddenly find themselves committed to living together, to sleeping in the same bed, to sharing two destinies that perhaps were fated to go in opposite directions.” 

― Gabriel García Márquez, Love in the Time of Cholera

“I do not care about power and wealth, father. I want to marry for love.”

“You want to marry for love?” The elder Valentino scoffed. “Que mierda. Marrying for love is like adding extra picante to your meal. It may seem like a good idea at the time, but your stomach will curse you for it with ulcers in the end.” 
― Felix Alexander, The Last Valentine

“Had my father loved my mother? He never spoke of her. I always imagined a traditional marriage between them--one built with the strong bones of respect, but stripped of the soft skin of love.” 
― Kay Honeyman, The Fire Horse Girl

“But how can she get married to a stranger? Just because his resume checked on all the materialistic criteria, it cannot demand the commitment of a lifetime.” 
― Swati Kumar, The Great Indian Dilemma

“Thanks to arranged marriages: There are countless women who have never been their husband's girlfriend.” 
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

“Do couples in arranged marriage actually fall in love ; or is it mere compatibility ?” 
― Swati Kumar, The Great Indian Dilemma

“Our matriarchs had an interesting advantage over today's western women. Matriarchs didn't begin their marriage with love. Instead, they were taught how to love. They entered marriage with an earnest determination to grow a love that would sustain their marriage for a life time.
― Michael Ben Zehabe, Song of Songs The Book for Daughters

“That single moment's intensity hasn't been matched in my life before or since. A woman I didn't know had chosen to accept me, in body and mind. Perhaps it is this instant that forms the basis of traditional marriage—a complete stranger is suddenly mine. And then, I am hers, too; I must offer her my all. I want her to wield her power over me as an acknowledgment of my love. The rush of those feelings all at once is too much to describe. Language communicates in terms of what is already known; it chokes up when asked to deal with the entirely unprecedented.” 
― Vivek Shanbhag, Ghachar Ghochar

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